Role as a Friend: Toughest Role
Roles may really seem to sound hard in the start. They sound very
daring and challenging. They are like tons of responsibilities. Thus, some people hate and feel troubled or
distressed to do their roles. Perhaps, this is because they are not interested
in doing them or anxious to fail in doing them.
Analogous to the niche in an ecosystem, each and every one of us have
our own roles. Roles that you are certainly obligated to fulfill and do at your
best. Yet, you always have a choice whether to do it or not. My advice is that
each time you make choices, you should always consider the consequences that
may arise.
I have read the quote “To have a friend and be a friend is what
makes life worthwhile.”- Unknown, from the 43 Most Insightful Friendship Quotes
in www.lifeoptimzer.com; and
I definitely agree with this. Yet, you have to accept the fact that you can’t
have a friend if you can’ perform the roles of being one.
According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a friend is a person who
you like, whom you enjoy being with and supports you in choices that you make.
Most of the time, friends are exclusive of family relations.
For me, however, a friend is someone who is always there for you
when you need a hand, someone who can give you advice regarding your problem,
someone who makes you happy, and someone you can trust with your profoundest
secrets. A friend is someone who would root for you no matter what.
Back when I was in grade seven, I picture my high school life as a
part of my life where I can have and make most of my time hanging out with my
friends. I thought my freshman year
would be my destined year to find my one and only BFF (Best Friends Forever);
because I believed that it was the
perfect timing to start a friendship- new school, new chapter and new page of
my life.
From grade seven till now, I only got two out of five- two
successful friendships and three drastically depressing break-ups (with three
of my friends). In my first break-up, I thought it was the end of my world;
that I would never find anything like her again- having the same likes and sharing
the same thoughts or opinions about certain things.
Unfortunately, nothing lasts forever- including our friendship. Every
day I always cry due to the dreadful sorrowness brought by our break-up. Second
best friend is also an epic fail; and as well as the third.
I therefore conclude that, based
on my experience, a heart break from a friend or losing a friendship is more
painful than heart break from a crush or losing a relationship.
You are now probably asking me the reason for my break-ups. Well
some of it are jealousy and competition. However, I think that I also have a
problem in my part. I think I failed to do some of my roles as a friend; and
this is the reason why I consider it as my most difficult role in life. Due to
these break-ups, my role as a friend made a great difference in my life. It
made me tougher in facing problems in life.
Another advantage of the role as a friend over other roles in life
is that you are free to choose who you want to be your friends, unlike in blood
relations. In order to have a good friendship with others, you should be aware
of their personalities and behavior as well as know the different ways of
managing and dealing with them.
By being
open-minded, optimistic and performing my roles as a friend, I have now recovered
from my break-ups and am now living a happy life with a new set of friends; and
I think that this one would be my group of BFF that would really last for a
lifetime.
